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Question by Too Pretty To Work A.K.A Jen: I can’t stand my SIL (long ?)?
Her and my BIL got married a year ago in December and I didn’t have a problem with her…1st I was offended cause they went off to Mexico to get married and we couldn’t afford to go and because of that she didn’t want to “waste” an invitation on us..it would be polite to still send is one especially since my husband is the grooms brother…I mean for a keepsake…then she is a Veternarian and I am a SAHM and full time college student and it feels like she is always talking down to me or just plain rude! They got pregnant right away and my BIL would ask me questions about babies and stuff since I have been married for 9yrs this year and have 2 kids…and when I am talking to him, she will straight up but in and take his attention away or change the subject…this would make me mad cause I am not forcing any advice on them…he is coming to me and asking me! Then on Thanksgiving all the women were in the kitchen getting dinner ready and she was micromanaging me and tell me step by step how to steam green beans…I was just standing there “like are you serious?” I wanted to slap her but she was pregnant…I just bit my tounge and left the room and let them finish cooking…then for Christmas we do a secret Santa and she had me, she bought me a really cute sweater but in a size LARGE…I was not even a Large when pregnant…so of course I was offended, then she didn’t want to take it and exchange it, she wanted to send me the reciept in the mail and have me drive all the way to Chicago to exchange it when she lived right there! I just left it and my MIL’s house and let them do whatever..and I still have not gotten my Christmas gift…so I will no longer participate in their secret santas….and the most recent thing she did that just made me want to avoid her at all cost cause i am not sure if i could fight the temptation to beat her was that she sent out the baby’s birth announcement…it had the babies name, middle name, moms last name and then my BIL’s last name…which I thought was weird cause if you are hyphenating last names…it should be the dad’s first, so i sent her a message on FB saying thanks for the announcement, the baby is gorgeous and that I was not aware that they were giving the baby her last name and not my BIL’s…i put it like that so they could clarify if it was another middle name, a misprint or if she was taking the mom’s name before the dad’s? Everyone was curious…and she deleted my question and didn’t even bother to respond…so now I am like what the hell is her problem?
I don’t hate…I just don’t want to be bothered with her…unfortunately i have to see her when i go to my MIL’s
well i asked about the last name cause no one would and everyone was confused…we were not sure if it was a misprint, another middle name or her last name????? I don’t really care, its not my kid..it’s theirs and they are free to do what they will…just everyone was like what does that mean and no one would ask but me…
Well I appreciate everyone’s imput. I never saw it the way you describe cause to me, I put forth effort to be nice and ask about the baby and buy her gifts and then BAM, I get shitty comments or treated shady…and its not that I am being petty…I just think that people can only take so much and they will either blow-up or just need to remove themselves from those people..thats just my point of view…
and I am definatly not jealous…I am not a jealous person and she has nothing i desire..
sounds like dana j has an agenda…
Yeah, I agree. I asked the one time about the name but once she deleted my question I never brought it back up…I think my husband asked his brother and maybe my MIL finally asked them something cause my husband told me that its another middle name…but I didn’t even want to ask anymore…it was clarified, and that all I want to know..
Best answer:
Answer by Shetedon
Sorry, not in the mood for the long ones today.
But from the first line in your question I will respond that hating is such a complete waste of your energy and mind. I find out that brushing things off frees my mind and allows me to devote my energy to what is really important in my life.
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Sounds like you two just don’t get along. It happens sometimes. Quite honestly, it was really uncalled for to ask about the baby’s last name. Perhaps the baby has two middle names, one of which is her family name? In any case, I would be polite when necessary, and don’t exclude yourself from family functions becaus eof her. It makes it not fun for everyone.
She’s odd and you’re blowing it WAY out of proportion. Just don’t react to her weirdness.
You seem childish for refusing to participate in the secret santa; it’s not the rest of the family’s fault you didn’t get your gift.
Your question about the baby’s name was a little offensive. It’s none of your business how they order the names. I’m sure they did it just as they wanted.
Does your SIL sound like she is better than you? yes. Though, you’re kind of acting like her with the gift and baby name. A gift is just that a gift. The baby name is what the two parents want the name to be and not anyone else.
How many times and in different areas are you going to ask this question? Get over it, it’s more your insecurity than her. You are looking for reasons other than jealousy to blame your behaviour on
I have similar problems with my SIL. She also gives inappropriate gifts, and makes rude comments to me. She critizes me in front of my husband, friends and children. I just turn to her and say pointedly, “That was unkind” or something similar. If she interrupts you, treat her like on of you children. “Susie, you realize I was talking to Tom, didn’t you? I’m sure you did. Please wait your turn.” (This is a bit extreme, and if done right, very embarrassing for the person receiving the scolding. You will probably only need to do it once.) Other then that, smile pleasantly and bring something to do while you’re there.
also, the baby name thing is weird and seems disrespectful to her husband’s name, but I think she knows that. Its a lapse of manners on her part, don’t harp or you’ll look like a nag.